Tuesday, May 24, 2011
Tuesday, May 10, 2011
Futility
I've been thinking about priorities lately. Reading books like Organized Simplicity inspires me to start up another round of un-stuff-ing, freeing my mind from the mental clutter as well as the physical tripping points. Increasing demands upon my time require* that something must go, and it's always a balancing act to keep my perspective grounded.
I want to spend more time with my children. Time invested in their lives is really the best spent, whereas all the busy-work of running the household has a peculiarly fatalistic quality to it: catch-up vacuuming and laundry is only marginally more time-consuming than the everyday variety. So I tell myself, and yet I really can't let the dishes and laundry slide too much. And ultimately, it just doesn't matter.
Ha! No, I'm not just being calm and accepting of less than perfection. It literally doesn't matter whether I think I'm caught up or not, because before the dishwasher or washing machine finishes the cycle, there will be more dirty dishes and soiled laundry. Just like Almanzo's fleece from Farmer Boy, I can never really keep up. And yet I keep trying.
The little incident that sparked all this introspection? While lately feeding the baby, I felt a suspicious warmth seep across my lap. I had just settled another load in the washer and graduated the last batch of soaking stains from the bin, and there was the momentary adrenaline rush to consider whether I should make a mad dash for the laundry room, strip all affected articles and stuff them in the washer in time to join the last cycle. And then I decided that it just didn't matter.
The leak was of the clear variety, not the yellow kind. It won't show. It doesn't stink. It will dry and the clothes will be good for another wearing.
People keep asking how life is with four children. I think this will be my new equilibrium - not waving the white flag of Surrender, but clutching the pragmatic handkerchief of Enough.
* Or is it requires? Is it the demands themselves (and therefore plural), or the increasing-ness of them (and therefore singular), at work here? I think there's an exchange in a play somewhere or other (Gilbert and Sullivan comes to mind, but that's not it) where this dilemma comes up, and a character deftly turns the matter aside by winding up with something like, 'Why, what a singular quandary,' and that's that.
Monday, May 09, 2011
Overheard this morning
Jane: There are only twelve letters left on the fridge! What words can I make?
(Later)
Jane: Look, Mama, I spelled Jane [using the Z sideways as an N] and Flup!
Me: Flup is not a word.
Jane: Well, we'll just call it Flap.
Monday, April 25, 2011
Tuesday, April 19, 2011
More Sugar
Michael's been working long days and odd hours, so sometimes he'll come home late and in need of sustenance. 'Are you hungry?' 'Whatcha got?' is a common exchange, so I've been striving to have cookies and chocolate milk on hand despite our unofficial (meaning I intended to, but didn't quite commit to) sacrifice of sugar and grains for Lent.
Recently we watched Men In Black together, so we've also been quoting Edgar: 'Sugar. More sugar!' It's helpful to have quotations when you're too tired to formulate coherent conversation. Or, as Lord Peter Wimsey observed, 'I always have a quotation for everything - it saves original thinking.'
Friday, April 01, 2011
National Atheist Day
Per Psalm 53:1.

I wish I had thought up some really clever pranks for today. Unfortunately these occasions simply creep up on me; it was many years ago that I decided, next time, to bake a pie on March 14th, and I still haven't done it. Here's a good one from the archives:
Katy looks (and acts) so much like Jane that it's like deja vu:
Wednesday, March 30, 2011
Why I haven't been blogging much lately
Saturday, September 11, 2010
Spellbound
Recently Jane told me, 'C and K have the same sound.'
'Yes,' I said, 'but C also has the soft C sound, and K doesn't.'
Jane pondered this a moment, and then said, 'I know a sound that K makes that C doesn't! Silent K!'
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Yesterday she was digging out magnet letters from under the fridge. 'I got the U!' she announced.
'You got the U, and I got the I,' I told her. Ha, ha! She thought that was hilarious. It's great to be such superstars to our kids.
Thursday, July 22, 2010
Small fry
For a while, it was pretty easy to talk over the children's heads. They were oblivious to all but the most obvious key words, and when all else failed, we'd spell crucial tidbits of classified info. Then Jane learned to spell, and we had to rely on more elaborate forms of code. This worked for a time, but Jane quickly adapted and began cracking our evolving code-speak. 'Big one,' 'Middlest,' '1.0,' etc. were all laid bare to her quick mind. Sometimes we'd even catch her calling Ella 'Middle One.'
Recently Michael took to calling them Wynken, Blynken, and Nod, which is pretty effective at obscuring intent, if a little outdated. Now he proposes Eeny, Meeny, and Miny, which doesn't seem quite as charming, but it gets the job done.
Now that we've started showing the girls a few (older) Disney movies, we are on the receiving end of an everlasting flood of impenetrable questions. I am reminded of the quote from Drink To Yesterday:
They call her Diana the Wise.
Why?
Because she asks such an awful lot of them.
Why-? Oh, I see.
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Michael is one of the brothers in our church's production of Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat, a fun musical which I'd never seen but the lyrics of which are quite clever. ('Being told we're also-rans Does not make us Joseph's fans.') Opening night is two weeks from yesterday, and we're in the final grueling stretch of rehearsals, which means lots of very long days. In a month or so, we hope life will return to normal.
Thursday, July 15, 2010
Back, again
We're back home after almost two weeks in Oregon. I had a good life in Virginia, and I feel happily settled in Georgia, but when I travel westward I'm convinced that Oregon is in my blood. The cool weather (such a welcome relief in July!), the lush green moss and ferns, the scent of fresh fruit wafting through the air from countless roadside stands and abundant wild trees and bushes, all struck such a familiar chord with me. And the smell of the air! I used to spend a week just breathing!
We had a great time visiting family, eating feasts at different relatives' houses every day. I miss my extended family, and hope my children can grow up with something close to what I experienced as a child. Right now, though, I'm just trying to catch up on the laundry.
Monday, June 21, 2010
Summer Solstice
Today is the first official day of summer, though it's been hot enough this fortnight. At least frequent thunderstorms have removed the necessity of watering the garden. We've gotten two pickings of green beans, two salads' worth of chard, and about six tomatoes so far. Very heartening. Too bad we're going to leave it all to the birds and the drought when we leave town next month (leaving the house sufficiently staffed with ferocious guard dogs, of course).
This week I hope to take the tots on a blueberry-picking expedition. I think Jane and Ella might be old enough to contribute to the general bucket, and if we leave early enough it might not be too hot. Meanwhile we lie about indoors under ceiling fans, trying to move as few muscles as possible and coming up with recipes for cold soup. And then Michael, who is not nearly such a martyr to frugality, comes home and rescues us by turning up the A/C. I do not relish the thought of three more months of this.
Tuesday, April 20, 2010
Very quickly, now
Blogger has been most annoying lately. (Or maybe it's been going on for a long time, and I just haven't posted much lately...) It seems all I have time for these days is the occasional picture post with quick captions, but I give that up all too easily whenever Blogger has conniptions. Hence few posts. It is a pity, because as Lord Goring observed, I am quite full up of information and feel like the latest edition of something-or-other, only there is no one in the house to talk to. Except, as it happens, that is hardly the case, as Jane and Ella provide ample conversation these days. Alas that baby books run out of room after about the first year.
Jane: Why does my car seat have arm rests?
Me: To rest your arms.
Jane: Or maybe to rest your elbow, when you're untangling a tangle.
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Ella: Please hold me! Jane is being Ursula!
Me: Ursula is just pretend, and Jane is not mean.
Ella (to Jane): Ursula, you are not mean.
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So we went to a tax day tea party at the state Capitol last Thursday. It was important to go, and the train ride downtown was an adventure for the girls. In truth, I've fallen under a deep cloud for the last month re: healthcare, and it's hard for me to see how any good can come of the breakdown of our economy and the dissolution of our country. Of course I always knew that America wouldn't be around for the end times, since it doesn't merit a mention in Revelation, but I never expected to be there to see it. Have I mentioned that I've been feeling rather bleak lately? Not at all related to turning thirty next week, which doesn't depress me in the least, because I'm mathematically savvy enough to realise that I entered my thirtieth year last birthday.
Jane: Why does my car seat have arm rests?
Me: To rest your arms.
Jane: Or maybe to rest your elbow, when you're untangling a tangle.
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Ella: Please hold me! Jane is being Ursula!
Me: Ursula is just pretend, and Jane is not mean.
Ella (to Jane): Ursula, you are not mean.
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So we went to a tax day tea party at the state Capitol last Thursday. It was important to go, and the train ride downtown was an adventure for the girls. In truth, I've fallen under a deep cloud for the last month re: healthcare, and it's hard for me to see how any good can come of the breakdown of our economy and the dissolution of our country. Of course I always knew that America wouldn't be around for the end times, since it doesn't merit a mention in Revelation, but I never expected to be there to see it. Have I mentioned that I've been feeling rather bleak lately? Not at all related to turning thirty next week, which doesn't depress me in the least, because I'm mathematically savvy enough to realise that I entered my thirtieth year last birthday.
These are my children
Friday, April 09, 2010
Sunday, March 14, 2010
Friday, February 05, 2010
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
Monday, November 30, 2009
Coffee, three ways
The sonnet:
To see one cup of coffee left behind;
To put it to good use, lest it grow bitter:
To look for caramel, and not to find;
To sniff, and sip, and drink, and then to jitter.
The Facebook:
Rose Focht is glad that her guests like coffee, because now the house smells nice.
Rose Focht is annoyed to discover that there is one cup of coffee left in the coffee maker. Can't clean the counter now.
Rose Focht is hunting for some good caramel macchiato recipes, or maybe mocha. Anyone?
Rose Focht is desperate to find a home for the coffee, other than throwing it down the drain.
Rose Focht has lots of pumpkin left over from Thanksgiving. We'll give this recipe a try.
Rose Focht now has lots of excess energy to expend in trite updates. Hello world!
The old-fashioned blog post:
Apparently there is a pumpkin shortage out there, which is only a problem for people who rely on canned pumpkin. Those hardy enough to grow their own pumpkins, or fortunate enough to have friends and family who share pumpkins, can have all the pumpkin puree they need by merely slicing up dozens of pumpkins, steaming the chunks, peeling the cooked pumpkin, pureeing the interiors, and finding room in the freezer to store it all, meanwhile having carefully salvaged the seeds for roasting. (It's not really that difficult, and I find it surprising that more people don't cook up their own pumpkins. Why does a simple case of do-it-yourself, which gives off even the slightest vibe of complexity or cleverness or resourcefulness, always merit some kind of Martha Stewart comparison? Not that I ever thought she was such a much, but at least I always admired her work ethic, entrepreneurial skills, and the notion of bringing beauty to homemaking. I even felt sorry for her over that prison flap, and tried to give her the benefit of the doubt in defiance of her detractors who labeled her a pretentious overpriced control freak. But her arrogant and uncalled-for [she was at a charity event for autism, for crying out loud] dismissal of Sarah Palin as 'boring and dangerous' [how does one simultaneously achieve both adjectives, pray tell?] goes beyond the pale, and I now officially dislike Martha Stewart.)
Anyway, it turns out the pumpkin puree has more applications than mere pumpkin pie, which I dislike; I've been working it off in pumpkin pancakes, pumpkin muffins, and pumpkin rolls, where it vastly improves the texture without even affecting the taste. Latest of these discoveries is this recipe for coffee, which - but I hear children stirring, and must dash.
Thursday, November 05, 2009
Remember, remember
Which led me on a merry search through Wikipedia to dig up the exact words, and a perusal of Amazon.com exploring such titles as Remember, Remember (the Fifth of November): Everything You've Ever Wanted to Know About British History with All the Boring Bits Taken Out, which is a dry book according to the review, and now I just want to dig out my copy of 1066 And All That and curl up with a nice cup of hot cocoa. November weather is here, and it’s time for tea.
Wednesday, October 28, 2009
Fall fun
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